What have we learned, class? We’ve talked about how women need verbal affirmation concerning her appearance from their man more than anyone else. And we’ve also learned that sometimes when a woman shares her problems with her man, it’s not so he can solve them, but rather so they can be understood and heard. Remember that? Good… Today I want to dispel the “gold digger” notion (at least for the portion of the adult female population who are serious about being in a legitimate, healthy — notice the qualifiers there — relationships). So, fellas, here’s what you need to know… (more…)

Last week, in an attempt to help out every man in a relationship, I talked about how, despite what most men think, women are not that complicated. It’s simply a case of men not truly wanting to understand their lady. We also talked about  how she wants her feelings to be heard and understood, not solved. This week, we’ll deal with an issue that many, if not every, man has dealt with — women’s appearances. Men, here’s what you need to know: (more…)

If you’re a man, I’m sure you’ve thought about how complex women are. How they simply can’t be figured out. How they do the most bizarre things, for unknown reasons. (If you’re a woman, it’s likely you agree.) If you have, then you will find this next statement confusing and perplexing. Women are not as complicated as you think they are. They’re actually rather simple. (more…)

If I had a dollar for every time someone told me I should be a model, look like a model, always pose like a model, etc, I’d have… all of maybe $20. But, from time to time, when I’m needed, I can stand (or sit) in front of the camera and look decent doing so.

A friend weeks back a friend of mine, Joshua McNair, called me up and said he had an idea he needed my help with. He’s an up and coming (and very talented) photographer who specializes in lifestyle and wedding photography. He told me he wanted to do a lifestyle shoot in the theme of the AMC show Mad Men. (more…)

The eight days I spent on the island of Haiti were truly incredible in every sense of the word. My heart broke countless times — not only for the country as a whole, but for the individual lives I saw and had an opportunity to impact in some small way.

Driving through downtown Port-au-Prince, my senses were overloaded. Every where I looked I saw scenes and pictures reminiscent of something on CNN in the days immediately following the quake. But here it was, in front of my own eyes, even more moving and powerful than I could have imagined. (more…)

Have you ever said to yourself, “You know what? I’ve just got to get out of here, get away from all this, and do something different. I need to move!”?

In preparing for my summer travels, I said exactly that. Although I wasn’t planning a permanent move, only a vacation, I still felt that need to get away from the normalcy of my life and do something different. I just needed some kind of change. Little did I know what that change would really mean. (more…)

Since the beginning of June, I’ve spent only eleven days at home. I spent two weeks in New York and Boston, a week in Chicago, and now, although I’m “home” in Atlanta, I’m house and dog-sitting for some friends. (And I’m preparing to head to Haiti in 10 days.) While this is a most unusual schedule for me, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed it. Over this time away from home I’ve learned quite a few things, but one sticks out more than the others. (more…)

I woke up this morning singing — or rather, groaning — the melody of one of my favorite India Arie songs. It’s perhaps one of my favorite songs of all time, India or not because it seems to voice those wants and desires that I can’t always articulate myself. And it does so in a beautiful way.

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